Things I would do:
I would make the conversation about the person and how I care about them and am non-judgemental. I would ask them, “Are you thinking about suicide? What made you feel that way?”
I would give them some advice, make suggestions, and let them know that you only live once and that I am there for them if they need it. Let them know that what you are going through will make you stronger; let them know ‘I am here to listen.’ Make sure to not make a promise if you aren’t going to keep it.
I would ask them, “Have you thought about suicide before? Or do you have a plan to hurt yourself?” If they say yes, or if they have a plan that is soon, make sure they stay safe. Make sure they have somewhere safe to be, and I know you can’t be with them 24/7 but make sure they are somewhere safe, and tell an adult what is happening.
I would let them know that there are resources and therapy if they are interested. I would give them the crisis number “just in case” so they have someone to talk to. Or, if they want to text, they can Text HOME to 741741 from anywhere in the United States, anytime. Crisis Text Line is here for any crisis. I would let them know too that the crisis lines are anonymous, and the Lifeline 800-273-8255 is also an option to get help. I would give her the resource for the app to download so she has it, like My3App, and let her know that sometimes it may be hard to change her mindset. I would make sure that they are okay and give them a safety plan. After I’ve done that, I would make sure to follow up with them, if possible every day.